THINK CAREFULLY WHEN PICKING THE TEAM FOR YOUR MATCH DAY
It pays to think tactically when it comes to choosing your squad for the big day. This is not about who you've known longest but about who can be relied upon to be there for you and be supportive. On this day of all days, you need a team you can trust.
This is your go-to guy, traditionally the one who helps you and makes arrangements. It is not (please make a note) the person to get you blind drunk and lead you astray. It’s his job to get you to the church and get you there ahead of time. He’s the one who should ensure you have a reasonably early night and awake fresh-eyed for the coming nuptials. If he’s the friend who always seems to land you in hot water, then he’s not your guy! You may be the coolest dude on the planet but be prepared for unknown levels of stress and nerves on the day you marry. When I look back at my own wedding photos, I see my husband on his own at the altar, and call them his ‘West Wing photos’ – like a president waiting to get sworn in. There’s a certain facial expression which takes over and you can’t explain it. This is the moment for a best man to come into his own, and make you feel confident and comfortable. You need a rock! Then of course, a best man should be a good speaker too. Don’t get me wrong, he doesn’t have to be John Bishop and have the room in stitches, but he should be quietly confident and know you well. Being a best man is an honour and he should know this and want to do his very best. Having two best men is quite a big trend now and actually not as crazy as it sounds Having two mans you can choose those with different qualities and they can bounce off each other. As long as you clearly define their respective roles then it should be smooth sailing.
I call these the helpers – the runners of the wedding world, there to help guests, make sure everyone’s happy and in the right place at the right time. If Great Aunt Flo or the heavily pregnant childhood friend needs extra looking after, then the ushers should be ready to step in. Traditionally they hand out the order of service and guide guests to the optimal seats, and this may still be their prime function. They’re not there to look good in a suit and be the first at the bar!